One of the biggest reasons why people don’t achieve their goals, or why they achieve their goals and they don’t stick is they miss out one crucial element.
It’s the post-mortem of their past goal-setting efforts. We all know it’s important to think positively about where we want to head. We all know the importance of action, as well.
But – for us to achieve our goals we first need to become the type of person who owns that luxury car. The person who nets a million dollars or more. The person who loves their body and feels great about it. To BE that person we need to look at who you are now.
Now – here’s the missing element…
It’s getting real about where we are now – not glossing over the negatives or the downside of our situation – but really taking a deep, close look at the current situation you’re in. Taking a deep, close look at what limiting beliefs you have that got you where you are today.
Without doing that, no matter which goals you set yourself you’ll still continue to get more of the same. More of what you have achieved in the past.
So – know yourself. Know your shadow side. The side of you that feels you’re unworthy. The side that feels you’re powerless. The side that feels you’re not good enough. Until we can get in touch with these elements of ourselves and “heal” them, it will be Ground Hog Day all over again.
I’ll admit it – facing one’s shadow is often an unpleasant experience but when you can do that, and take actions to neutralise it, it is one of the most important keys to achieving whatever you want in life.
The first step in neutralising your shadow and getting power over it is to stare it in the face and recognise it for what it is. Once we do that, it loses a lot of its hold over you.
- What do you commonly say or think about yourself? I’m stupid. I’m not good enough.
“I don’t know enough.”
“I never get what I want.”
Or something else.
- What do you commonly say or think about others?
“Nobody loves me.”
“People are selfish.”
Or something else
- What do you commonly say or think about the world?
“It’s a dog-eat-dog world”
The answers to these questions are your limiting beliefs. They aren’t true. They’re illusions that you first made up when you were a child. Then – every time something that you perceived to be bad happened, you kept reinforcing those beliefs. Now – they are part of how you operate in the world. Yet – they are not real. You made them up. You are operating in the world based on the illusions of a six year old child. Every decision you make, every thought you have, every feeling you have, is done through the eyes of that six year old.
The next step is to see how these limiting beliefs have played out in all areas of your life. Get really present with the level of impact that these beliefs have been having on your income, your health, your relationships, your family. Get really present with that. And YES it may hurt or at least make you squirm.
Next – recognise these limiting beliefs as illusions. When you can recognise that these aren’t real they completely lose their power over you. How to do that?
That’s an article in itself however there are many different methods to use. I’ve experimented with many of them over the last 10 years. What I’ve found that the method that works best depends on the willingness of the person, the stage in their “journey” and the personality of the person.
One of the challenges with limiting belief eradication processes is that the person doing the work works through the process with their logical mind and they don’t get completely, completely present with the impact that this limiting belief is having on their life. So – they are employing their own self-sabotage patterns when going into the process. Needless to say, in many situations, the process doesn’t work.
Processes fall into two main groups:
- Psychological processes – where a person is asked to relive certain situations in their past and then use certain steps to neutralise these beliefs.
- Metaphysical processes – this is where an energy healing practitioner channels energy which bypasses the person’s subconscious mind and helps emotional healing occur on a cellular level without the person actively going through a certain type of process.
Either one can be very effective depending on the situation. A few years ago I started combining both in the same session – using both energy work and the psychological processes during my coaching work, and once I started doing that, it produced a dramatic shift in results.
No matter which process you use to eradicate those limiting beliefs, the vital thing to do is to sit down and recognise what they are – first. Then – get present with how they have impacted your life so far (really present). These two steps alone will have an enormous impact on the manifesting of your goals.
Kristina Mills is a highly regarded direct response copywriter, marketing strategist, entrepreneur and success strategist having worked with and produced great results for some of Australia's most inspirational entrepreneurs, speakers, event companies, professional services firms, property companies, and internet entrepreneurs. She is the author of Invisible Genius Vol1 and 2, Freelance Copywriting Fast Track Course, Direct Mail Mastery, Web Copy Mastery, Invisible Genius Vol.1 and 2, Mortgage Broker Letters that Sell, Real Estate Letters that Sell, How to Create a Sales Explosion With Every Ad and Letter Your Write. To find out more about how Kristina can help you live your potential, arrange a free 15 minute phone chat.